God, Death and Grief

Monday, March 26, 2018

I'm not sure if my readers remember me posting about losing my mom to a car accident back in 2014. I think the worst of my grief is over but the grief isn't really over. I don't think grief is something that people can overcome so quickly, even if the relationship with the deceased was a complicated one. Every season, every life event, every normal day brings up something that makes you think of your loved one and you have to deal with the loss all over again, in different ways and in different varying degrees of pain.

This weekend, there was a pretty serious accident involving a teenage girl and another vehicle that hit her head on. Her car caught fire and she was pulled from the wreckage by two passerby and later rushed to the hospital with serious injuries. She will need several surgeries but, as of now, seems she will make it. Her family has been posting updates on FB and many people are stepping forward to offer their thoughts and prayers, many other good intention people are saying, "God was really looking out for her!"

One thing that really irritates me, especially when it comes to people referring to individuals that have been in accidents, especially very serious ones is where people that are offering their thoughts and prayers to said individual, go on to say, "God was really looking out for them!" As someone that struggles with grief and loss of someone in a car accident, hearing that they were simply saved because God was looking out for them in that moment, it implies that your loved one was not saved because God did not deem their worthy of saving or worthy of paying attention to intervene to save them.

In my opinion, I think this further makes the surviving loved one already struggle with their faith, especially in their moment of need. For someone that is grieving, especially after a loved one has died tragically, to hear others lamenting about how great they are that God saved them makes their grief worse. They are now grieving a loved one that they now consider not worthy of divine grace.

While I'm not saying that everyone cannot speak about divine love and intervention. I think it's important to note, to find a new way to say it. A more simple divine praise would suffice, something more general. You never know who is watching/reading/listening and your words, while good intentioned might actually cut someone rather deep, especially someone newly deep into the grieving process.

As someone that believes everyone is worthy, and that sometimes bad things just happen to good (and bad) people, I think it really goes against what the divine is all about.

Offer your prayers and your kind words, but know everyone is worthy.

The Ever Changing Tides of Spirituality

Saturday, March 24, 2018

My spirituality is something that I have struggled with the past few years. It's always been something in the back of my mind over the years, since I first began having my Pagan leanings when young but it was something I turned to quite often and did find some relief in when things were stressful.

Over the years, it's gotten harder and harder to acknowledge the spiritual side of things especially since I've had such a rough few years. I have wanted and craved a deeper spiritual connection to the world around me and to the people around me. It would be great to have a real world sanctuary to attend. There is a local UU fellowship to where I live but I'm not sure that congregation is the right fit for me. However, I have not attended services there so I'm not exactly sure of that.

However, the past few years, I would say I've struggled with my spiritual beliefs greatly. I've wanted a deeper spirituality that offers comfort and texts to offer that comfort when I'm feeling low or stressed. I've sought out things online and sought out spirituality in UU texts which has helped, but of course Unitarian Universalism uses 6 sources to gain inspiration from and that's helpful in times of need because you can turn to any of those sources for help and comfort.

So while I feel I need to say that Paganism isn't at the forefront of my spirituality at this point, I would say it still is something I draw inspiration from. I think it's important to note, I don't have a specific spirituality practice at this time or a certain leaning. I suppose I'm currently in the seeker stage, deciding what calls to my heart at this exact moment.

I have been focusing more on trying to attend CLFUU services online on Sundays to rededicate myself to a weekly spiritual practice. I've also been checking out more virtual places on Second Life to feed my soul.

I think this is why I find Unitarian Universalism to be so important in today's society. It allows seekers or those that find comfort in many sources to do so without feeling as if they are stuck or not believing correctly with their current religion.

I hope this is not upsetting to those that have been reading and following over the years. My mission is still the same, to share spiritual practices and a care and love for the environment in which we live, not to mention justice for those that live in our world. I just happen to find comfort in many spiritual areas and wish to share with others how they can too.